This month, on the 9th of the Hebrew month of Av (August 13th), we observe Tisha B’Av, a solemn day marking the destruction of the Holy Temples in Jerusalem. On this day, we also commemorate the other tragedies that have befallen the Jewish people throughout history. We observe this holy day by following many mourning rituals, such as fasting, to reflect on these profound losses.
Why do we put so much focus and energy into remembering our losses? Would it not be better to focus only on happy and joyous times?
While we can accomplish a lot by focusing primarily on the positive, Jewish tradition also values remembering hardships and difficulties, recognizing that there is much to learn from both good times and hard times. The ways we recover from adversity shape us and make us stronger. We should be proud of this resilience and celebrate our strength. While Tisha B’Av can bring up difficult memories, it also reminds us that challenges can push us to become the strongest, best version of ourselves. As we read in the Eicha reading on Tisha B’Av, “Restore us to You, O L‑rd, that we may be restored”. We have the ability with G-d’s blessings to be restored and become stronger and better every day.
At the JAA, we celebrate together during the good times and support each other through difficult times. May we carry this strength of support and care, helping each other and making the world into a place of goodness, peace, and blessing.
-Rabbi Dovid Small